As we observe the season of Lent, I’ve been thinking about how careful we need to be to not “leave Jesus hanging on the cross” as we talk about His death and resurrection with the young children in our lives.
I’ve hesitated writing this post because the last thing I want to do is make someone feel self-conscious or sad about doing this in the past. Let me be the first to say that I don’t always do this perfectly! And, if you are someone who has never thought about this issue before, please don’t stress about it. Here’s just something to think about going forward: Don’t leave Jesus on the cross!
Here’s what I mean:
In the Church, especially around Easter, we have a tendency to focus on our sin and on the sadness and sorrow of Good Friday and the crucifixion. Rightly, we want people to understand their sin and need for a Savior.
Talking about our sins and all the things we’ve done wrong and how Jesus died on the cross to redeem our sins.
Writing our sins down on a piece of paper and hammering them into a wooden cross.
But, we have to be careful with children to not “stay” in that zone, for two reasons:
Children don’t have the same time concept as adults. My 3 -year-old still can’t quite remember the difference between yesterday and tomorrow. She can’t always recall a conversation I had with her earlier today. While this will obviously get better, even elementary school children don’t have a superb sense of time, in the same way teenagers and adults do.
Until around age 12, children are not abstract thinkers. They need things concretely explained to them. When we do an activity like “nailing our sins to the cross” (by writing a sin on a piece of paper), they can’t retain that activity over the course of two days from Good Friday to Easter Sunday. They’re not processing that symbolism the same way adults do.
So, here’s a general rule when working with children, I would say all the way up through age 12 or so:
Don’t leave Jesus on the cross. If you talk about the crucifixion, talk about the resurrection in the next breath. If you lead an activity about sin and death, wrap it up with a component describing His victory from the grave.
In our family, I try to make sure we always say something like, “Jesus died on the cross and rose againon Easter,” rather than simply talking about Jesus dying on the cross and leaving it at that.
After all, what’s the value of His death on the cross if we don’t remember He rose again on Easter morning?
I want the victory of Easter to be ingrained in the minds and hearts of the children I teach.
I want to be sensitive to any Catholic Christian readers of Faith Passed Down. I understand there are reasons for crucifixes depicting Jesus on the cross, and I’m not trying to demean that practice.
Just make sure that as you view a cross with Jesus hanging on it with your young children, you point out that He’s not on the cross anymore – we can remember our sins and also remember that He rose victorious from the grave!
We’ve been enjoying some Lent/Easter activities at our house this week, and I wanted to share some ideas that have worked for us. I’ve included tips for doing these crafts with a variety of age groups.
This is the only idea on this list not from Pinterest, but instead from my own mom! She is a Christian-school Kindergarten teacher and I remember making this poster long ago when I was a student in her class!
I adapted it based on my memories, and we’re making it gradually as the days get closer to Easter.
I cut out a cross from purple construction paper (I just happened to have no plain purple paper, but did have this beautiful scrapbook paper when I went hunting!) Together Elle and I glued it to a piece of black construction paper. We used white glue to make an outline of the cross and added some glitter to make it fancy.
Now each day (as I think of it), we’re adding a symbol of the Easter story. I would use a hot-glue gun if possible, though it’s been working okay for me so far to just use regular Elmer’s glue.
Here are ideas for what to include:
green paper palm branch – for Palm Sunday
matzah cracker – for the bread Jesus broke at the Last Supper, saying, “This is My body.”
cardboard wine cup, painted silver – for the cup, saying “This is My blood.”
nickel – to represent the pieces of silver that Judas received for betraying Jesus.
a small piece of thorns – for the crown of thorns – You could use a stick that looks a little “pokey” if you don’t have access to thorns or are worried about injury.
white cotton – to represent the linens used to wrap Jesus’ body
sponge – to represent the sponge used to give Jesus a drink when He was on the cross
plastic toothpick sword, for the spear used to pierce Jesus’ side
paper bowl + small piece of white cloth, used to represent washing of disciples’ feet
white cloth or gauze – grave cloths used to wrap Jesus’ body
We had already put glitter on the outside of the cross, and then I was talking to my mom and she said that after Easter, they would put tissue paper to outline the cross as a “victory! Hooray He is risen!” sort of thing. I loved that idea. You could have kids crumple up little balls of brightly colored tissue and glue, or you can also use the end of a pencil (the eraser side) – wrap a tissue square around it, then place it on some glue, and it will look like flowers.
For younger kids: Cut and prepare all the parts of the poster ahead of time. If using hot glue, you will need to the gluing. Even for toddlers/preschoolers, this is a nice way to talk about the significance of some of these items – similar to doing Resurrection Eggs, but with a tangible thing to look at on the wall.
For older children/teenagers: They can cut and prepare the parts of the poster themselves. You could even offer a number of items, but allow them to choose the ones most significant (for example, make 6 items available, but have them choose each choose their 4 favorites). You could provide variety through different kinds of patterned scrapbook paper for the cross or different colors of glitter.
I loved how super-simple this activity was, with just colored construction paper and a glue stick.
For younger kids: Cut out all the squares + a cross for each child ahead of time. Assist with gluing.
For older children/teenagers: Offer whole sheets of paper and have students cut out the squares and crosses themselves. You could provide ideas for different “shaped” crosses (some with curly embellishments on the end, different sizes, etc.) You could also provide different patterns of paper for variety.
Another super simple activity. Afterwards, we used the branches to role-play the story of Jesus entering Jerusalem. We waved the branches and shouted “Hosanna.” My 3 year old went and got her stuffed dog off her bed and “rode” it like a donkey when she pretended to be Jesus!
For younger kids: This is perfect for young children who are still learning cutting skills. You cut out the shape of the palm branch, then let the child cut out the “fringe.”
For older children/teenagers: This craft may be too basic for older children or teenagers.
Here’s another activity we’re doing gradually, adding a symbol or two as the week goes on (that’s why it’s not all colored-in yet in the picture above.)
For younger kids: Cut out the shapes ahead of time. For my 3 year old, she seemed to color more thoroughly when I cut out the details of the entire shape and provided a piece of scratch paper underneath, rather than when I gave her the whole piece of paper, including some extra space on the outside of the shape, planning to cut it out later.
For older children/teenagers: Provide the entire printable (available at link above) and let them do their own cutting. I had trouble getting the text to print on the eggs, so I am just handwriting on a blank egg. Older children/teenagers with small penmanship can do this, too.
Check out the linked post for the idea behind this project, and a wonderful book to go along with it. The blog post doesn’t provide very specific directions, so here’s what we did:
Trace handprints with a pencil onto a white piece of paper. (I just used computer paper, and it folded/rolled very easily, which was nice.)
Cut out the handprints.
Take a green pipe cleaner (the entire thing) + a small piece of yellow pipe cleaner (I cut a full-length one into thirds). Wrap the yellow piece around the tip of the green pipe cleaner – I just twisted them together. You’re trying to make the yellow pollen part of the lily, along with the green stem.
Wrap/roll the handprint around the pipe cleaner, enclosing the yellow part, and secure with tape.
We made a few and put into a vase. We also made some hearts (“Because Jesus loves us!” said Elle) and wrapped those two together, which made kind of a tulip shape.
For younger kids: This activity would be great for kids who can cut. We’re not there yet with my 3-year-old, so I did find myself doing most of the “work” of this craft, but she was happy to help fold the pipe cleaner and tape it, and we did end up with a lovely table decoration!
For older children: Allow them to do the tracing and cutting themselves. Provide different colored paper for variety, or recommend trying different shapes besides just a handprint.
**Have you done any activities for Lent/Easter? Leave a comment below telling your favorites.
Christian Valentine Ideas for Toddlers and Preschoolers
We’ve been having fun preparing for Valentine’s Day at our house, and I wanted to share some of the simple activities we’ve been doing plus some ideas I have for the next few days. I have a 3.5 year old and 1 year old – both girls.
I haven’t had to get special supplies or do much prep work for these activities, so I hope you might still be able to use some of these if you have toddlers or preschoolers, even though Valentine’s Day is fast-approaching!
The Purpose: “We love because He first loved us.”
I personally love Valentine’s Day – in fact, I shocked my husband recently by sharing that it might even be my favorite holiday. As much as I love Easter and Christmas, I’m always filled with so much angst over the way our culture celebrates (bunnies and candy and over-the-top gift giving) versus the focus of these holidays as Christians (Christ and His birth, death, and victory through resurrection!)
I don’t feel that same angst over Valentine’s Day – after all, I think we all agree that loving one another is a good thing to do, whether our spouse, family members, or friends!
With that said, I think as Christians, we can particularly make sure our focus at Valentine’s Day is on God’s love for us as the REASON that we love one another. As believers, we don’t just love because it’s nice or makes us happy or wins us friends.
We love because Jesus already loved us (see 1 John 4). This is what sets us apart from the rest of the world!
So, as I’m talking with my kids about love and Valentine’s Day this week, I’m trying to focus WAY more on the love of God than on teaching my kids to love others.
Sometimes I see Valentine’s Day turned into a moral lesson about how children should act, with lots of discussion of their kindness and service to others.
While it’s fine to use this time to teach how to love one another, we want to be sure that the emphasis is that God loved us first.That’s it. He did it. Therefore, we can now love one another. But that’s only after we remember His love for us first.
Bible Verses to Use
Here are a few Bible verses we’ve been reading and discussing in our home (see the games section below for some ideas for how to do this). Though I typically like the NIrV versionwhen working with children, so many of these verses are familiar to me in the NIV translation that I’ve been using that one.
John 3:16 – “For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life.”
1 John 3:1 – “See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are!”
1 John 3:16a – “This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down His life for us.”
1 John 4:7 – “Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God.”
1 John 4:8 – “Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.”
1 John 4:9 – “This is how God showed His love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through Him.”
1 John 4:10 – “This is love: not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins.”
1 John 4:11 – “Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. ”
1 John 4:12 – “No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and His love is made complete in us.”
1 John 4:16 – “And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them.”
1 John 4:19 – “We love because He first loved us.”
Ephesians 4:32 – “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”
We’ve been singing…
“Skidamarinka dink” – which is not at all “Christ-centered” but a nice way to remind my kids I love them. Here’s a cute little video if you’re not familiar with the song.
“Be Ye Kind to One Another” (the words of Ephesians 4:32)
I like to have our kids send Valentines to our friends and loved ones, as an expression of “love one another.” We made these hearts using this “shake up hearts” idea that I found on Pinterest.
This was a fun activity using just some basic ingredients – paint, paper, and a plastic jar (thankfully I remembered we were running out of peanut butter so I used that one.) You can check out the directions at the link above.
The only warning I’ll give is that we used too much paint and it got pretty clumpy, especially after a few papers. So, if you’re planning to assembly-line 100 cards or something like that, you will want to wash out the paint periodically.
After my daughters made the papers, I let the papers dry and later cut them into hearts. Then I wrote some messages and Bible verses on each one.
We’ll distribute some at a Valentine’s party we’re going to on Saturday, plus include some in our (much-delayed) Christmas thank you cards that I’m determined to send this week! 🙂
Valentine Crafts for Kids
These Silly Heart Puppets (also a Pinterest find) were a big hit, and required just a few simple supplies – paint, popsicle sticks, plus a thin cardboard box out of our pantry.
We decorated two into actual puppets, using googly eyes and pom-poms, but we also liked just the plain painted hearts.
You could write some of the Bible verses above on these hearts! (In all honesty, we didn’t really do this, because by the time I had that idea, my daughter had already distributed them as gifts to all her princess dolls – I just made this one as an example).
We made handprint hearts and feet.
We made a Valentine’s Day sign using ripped paper. My daughter cut/ripped some pink paper, then together we glued it into a heart. (I actually intended for us to cut out paper hearts before realizing her cutting skills aren’t nearly that developed! So ripping the paper into pieces worked much better.)
Valentine’s Day Games
After making some crafts, I could tell we were all getting stir-crazy, so I came up with two very simple, no-prep-needed games.
First, I cut out some hearts and quickly wrote a few Bible verses on them. (You’ll see from the photos I actually abbreviated some of the verses into 3-year-old language.) Alternatively, here are some printable hearts with verses that you could use.
Bible Verse Hide-and-Seek
Then, I sent my daughter into her room while I hid the hearts around the living room, taped onto the wall in various places. As she found each one, she brought it back to me and we read it together before she set out to find another.
Bible Verse Relay Race
For a more active version, I hung them all up on the door in our bedroom using tape (the only uncluttered part of the house at this point, so she wouldn’t trip). We had a starting line in the living room, and she ran to the door, picked up one heart, then brought it back to me, then ran to get another until she had collected all five. (We didn’t bother reading them aloud, though you could.) My one year old even enjoyed getting in on this one!
Activities and Other Ideas
Family Date Dinner
For the first time this year, we’re going to have a “family date dinner” with our kids on Valentine’s Day. I was inspired by an idea I saw on my favorite Sorta Awesome Hangout facebook group.
We plan to prepare a festive dinner, decorate our table with some paper hearts and little decorations, and light some candles. We’ll all get dressed up and turn on some fancy music to listen to. I hope we’ll read and talk about some of our “love” Bible verses and have some special family time together.
(For what it’s worth, I’m not trying to neglect my husband on Valentine’s Day! He and I have an at-home date night every Tuesday so we are having some special dates this week and next week to celebrate).
Valentine’s Tea Party
For several years – even when our kids were just babies! – my sister and I have had a Valentine’s tea party with heart-shaped treats and activities. Whether you do this with cousins, friends, a Sunday school class, or just within your immediate family, it’s a fun way to celebrate with loved ones.
I’ve always loved reading about Jess McClenahan’s darling parties, which I think was the inspiration for our first party… you can read about them here: onetwothreefour
Serve Outside Your Family
Something we may do this year is put together some Valentine’s Day goody baskets for someone who could use some encouragement – maybe a “thanks” gift for people who help us, like our apartment complex managers; or sending a package to a friend across the country; or dropping one off at the local hospital or a nursing home.
If we do, we’ll probably just fill a basket with some items from Target, like some sweets and stickers, and then include a couple of our homemade craft items from this week.
Do you have any other ideas for ways to serve at Valentine’s Day? I’d love to do more of this.
How do you celebrate Valentine’s Day? Leave a comment below.
As I’ve shared over the past few days, we’ve had a pretty low-key December as I’ve been in the midst of significant morning sickness, and there are many things we did not do this holiday season.
And yet, we’ve truly had a lovely December, we enjoyed a super-simple Advent season with our kids, and we celebrated a pleasant Christmas holiday with our extended family.
In hindsight, I’ve been thinking through some things that helped us this month.
I did not plan ahead for this month, but if we were hoping to have another super-simple holiday season, particularly one where I knew it would be extra-crazy, here’s some things I’d consider.
I hope that if you are looking ahead to a “survival mode” Christmas – maybe you’re anticipating a move, have a job that means the holidays are extra-busy, face sickness, or are expecting a new baby – these tips might help you, too.
How to Enjoy a Simple Holiday Season (especially in survival mode)
1. Identify what is #1 most important to you and your family members/loved ones.
Sit down and ask each person what is truly the #1 only thing that is most important.
For me, it would be singing lots of Christmas carols. For my 3 year old, she wouldn’t have been able to articulate this, but it’s been “decorating” (in her own way) by placing ornaments on the tree and also “decorating” our presents with ribbons. For the baby, it’s having not-stressed out parents. 🙂
Whatever the case, figure out what’s most important, and put those at the top of your list.
2. Similarly, identify what is not important to you or what is a big stressor.
Is there a holiday event you always go to, and it never ends well? The kids stay up too late, or you feel stressed out, or you have to provide expensive gifts for an exchange, or whatever? Consider skipping it (or just sending the people who actually enjoy it!)
For us, it’s sending Christmas cards. Growing up, my parents wrote the most clever Christmas letters each year, and it was a highlight of our celebration. Likewise, I’ve always loved reading Christmas letters/cards.
However, we now work for an aid organization where we already send out a monthly email update to most of our loved ones, and it seems that each year, sending even a simple family photo ends up taking hours as we try to take a nice photo and then stuff and stamp envelopes.
So this year, we finally opted not to send them out, at least not until the new year when life calms down a bit.
3. Pray and ask God to direct your plans to honor Him.
I don’t think everything on your December calendar needs to be religious in nature, but we do want to honor Him with all that we do, particularly as we celebrate the birth of Christ.
Is there anything on your list to remove?
4. Set yourself up for success.
Remember that list of #1 most important things?
Put any specific dates into the calendar (like, “attend church choir concert on December 10 at 2:00 pm”).
Make a list of other items that can happen anytime (like, “make cocoa and watch a Christmas movie”) and stick on your phone, refrigerator, or somewhere obvious, so that when you have a spare moment, you can make it happen.
Set a deadline for certain items, especially the “maybes.” Though we knew it’s stressful, we actually did intend to still send out some simple Christmas postcards… until, the week before Christmas, we crossed the threshold of “even if we do them now, they won’t arrive before Christmas” so I took it off my list. If you have something you might want to do, set a deadline for it: “If we haven’t made homemade gifts by December 15, we’ll just go buy storebought.”
5. Identify what is easy and set yourself up for impromptu fun.
This has been key in our family’s Christmas celebration. We already had a few Christmas craft kits and activity books, so I threw those in an empty drawer and my 3 year old has been doing a few over the past few weeks.
Because we’ve had a pretty open schedule (I’ve just felt horrible in the midst of it), we’ve had the freedom to turn on a Christmas movie on Netflix or bake super simple cookies. I gathered up a small basket of Christmas books from our bookshelves and the library, and we’ve been reading them periodically.
None of these activities were planned more than five minutes before we began doing them! But I’ve tried to stay open to a few simple activities.
Some other ideas for facilitating impromptu fun are:
make a list of holiday events in your community, and refer to it if you find yourself with a free evening/weekend.
So many of the things we did this Christmas happened as a result of other gracious people in our lives.
Family members provided tickets to two holiday shows and arranged all of the food/activities for our Christmas celebrations.
My sister baked cookies, made icing, and invited us over to decorate them, with zero effort on my part (except enjoying the finished product!) 🙂
Even participating in Christmas Eve church was the result of the hard work of the pastors, choir members, and worship leaders! It’s been easier for us to attend events that others have arranged, rather than trying to put it together ourselves.
What We HAVE Done This Christmas Season – some simple ideas
Despite all that we’ve skipped, here are the things we have done, perfect for our current situation, that have resulted in a meaningful December nonetheless. You’ll notice that many of these happened as the result of delegation/other people helping us, or as the result of impromptu, spur-of-the-moment fun.
We have done evening Advent wreath devotions at the dinner table about half the nights in December. This has been the #1 most meaningful thing this year. It requires virtually no preparation, other than having an Advent wreath with four candles. Most nights, we turn off the lights, light the appropriate candle(s), read one Bible verse related to the Christmas story, and then sing a verse (a capella) of “O Come, O Come Emmanuel.” Often since we already have the hymnal out, we sing a few more carols – usually just the first verse of each one. Then we blow out the candles. That’s it! It usually takes about 5 minutes, and to be honest, several nights I’ve just stayed on the couch and hollered the songs from across the living room to my family at the table. 🙂 But it’s been so special to hear our daughter start to learn these songs, and I love singing as a family. (We have no future as the Von Trapp Family Singers. We’re often off-key and I inevitably start “Away in a Manger” too low so halfway through I can’t get the notes out. But it’s still fun, and I hope worships the Lord.)
We spread out all our Christmas ornaments on a table and let my 3 year-old decorate and redecorate our little two-foot (fake) Christmas tree. So far we’ve only broken one ornament!
We dumped all our kid-friendly nativity scenes into one tub together so the kids could pull out pieces and play with them.
My mom purchased a chocolate-filled Peanuts countdown calendar, and most days, we’ve pulled out a chocolate for our daughter.
We went to see the Nutcracker and Disney Frozen on Ice, thanks to extended family members who got tickets and made all the arrangements.
We strolled around a Christmas tree festival (where they decorate trees in different themes and people purchase them for charity).
Whenever Christmas comes up in conversation, we try to tie in Jesus as much as possible. We talk about how Christmas is Jesus’ birthday, and how some of the characters on the Christmas shows we watch don’t know Jesus yet.
I threw our children’s Christmas books into a box and have read them sporadically.
We purchased and wrapped gifts for our extended family members (about 10 people) + a gift to my daughter’s eye specialist and our apartment complex managers. Those are the only people we gave anything to, but this still felt like the most time-consuming part of our holiday season, especially since we opted not to buy gift cards but instead do pretty personal gifts. (But it ended up being fun to do this and feel a little accomplished. 🙂
We have watched pretty much every Christmas cartoon on Netflix. 🙂 (Seriously!) We’ve also enjoyed watching White Christmas and How the Grinch Stole Christmas.
My husband and daughter made super-simple chocolate chip cookies in Christmas shapes.
We attended church on Christmas Eve.
We went to my parents’ house for the entire week of Christmas, where we were spoiled with food, cable television, presents, and child care. My parents and sister planned and provided all the food/merriment for our actual Christmas celebrations.
In the end, we’ve ended up with a nice Christmas season, where we were able to spend time together and celebrate and remember Jesus’ birth.
And it’s not over yet! There are still a few more of the 12 Days of Christmas left… I’m hoping we still might get out to look at some lights or sing a few more carols before the season officially ends. 🙂
**Leave a comment below. What tips do you have for a simple Christmas season, especially when life is especially crazy?
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It’s been a little quiet around Faith Passed Down lately. I published a guide to a meaningful Thanksgiving in mid-November, but since then, our house has been a little crazy.
We’re joyously expecting twins (!!!) and I’ve been dealing with your typical morning all-day sickness, a bit worse than in my previous pregnancies, which I hear is common for twins.
I am trying so hard not to complain, because I personally know several women (plus Princess Kate, who I feel like I know!) who have suffered from truly debilitating, hospitalizing pregnancy sickness… and that certainly hasn’t been the case for me!
But, it’s still been an adjustment to our typical life, and I have felt pretty stretched thin.
My definition of “tidying up” has changed to “maybe if I’m lucky I pick up a few of the Cheerios off the carpet before the baby eats them.”
Rather than checking items off my to-do list each day, I’ve been glancing at my calendar about once a week, only to notice that I’ve missed things like “library books due” and “Ava’s Baptism Birthday.”
All that to say, this Advent/Christmas season has not been “Pinterest-perfect” in our home. In fact, until I went to take some pictures for this series, I don’t think I had photographed a single part of our house so far this month, because there hasn’t been much to share!
There has been no daily holiday activity, no homeschool Christmas crafts, and certainly no wandering elf!
Though Christmas is over, I wanted to spend some time reflecting on this year’s Christmas in “survival mode,” in the hopes that it might encourage some of you whose Christmas seasons looked similar.
Celebrating Christmas when Life Is Harder than Usual
Even if you’re not dealing with morning sickness, perhaps you’re in a similar situation – maybe an extra-busy season at work, a child with special needs, a period of colds or flu in your home, a newborn, a parent or grandparent with a terminal illness, a home remodel – has made your holiday season busier, or more overwhelming, or has resulted in a pile of unmet expectations.
Over the next couple days I’d like to share some of the specifics behind our Advent/Christmas season in less than ideal circumstances.
I hope this might offer you:
comfort and encouragement (maybe you’ll be reassured to think, “Hey, at least we’re doing more than she is!”)
ideas for thinking outside the box regarding how to celebrate Christmas.
permission to cut back your holiday expectations for future years.
It can be so easy to pile up a list of expectations and hopes for the holidays.
We might think of our own childhood traditions and want to do every single one.
Then we look at our community’s fun calendar of events, or write down all the activities for our church/school/work/club. (Am I the only one who always thinks the local rec center/library activities sound like so much fun? I am so lured by the promise of “refreshments!”)
After that, of course, a quick internet perusal gives us ten more ideas to add to our mental (or written!) Christmastime to-do list!
This year, however, I’ve just been trying to do enough laundry that I have relatively clean clothes pajamas to wear each day, along with keeping my one-year-old from putting choking hazards in her mouth.
With those kind of lofty expectations, there has been little room for elaborate Christmas goals.
Things We Have Not Done This Christmas Season
I’m not saying I’m super proud of all these things – we would have loved to attend midweek church services or participated in a service project, and I wish we would have sent Christmas cards. But, here’s the reality!
We never took family photos.
We never sent Christmas cards.
We attended only one holiday party, skipping several others, including a MOPS craft day and a fun event at our vision therapist’s office. We even sadly missed my husband’s work party (though instead we went to the doctor and found out we were having twins!)
We made just one homemade gift total, though I originally planned to have my girls make something for each family member.
We did not decorate gingerbread houses.
We did not attend any midweek church Advent services.
We did not make homemade wrapping paper even though I knew my 3-year-old would love painting it (and we have all the supplies!!)
We did not purchase or make any gifts for our own kids. (We did wrap up a few gifts from our own childhood plus a few toys I had bought on sale long ago).
My husband and I did not purchase/make/give any gifts to each other.
Despite all the darling ideas online, we did not purchase or make any Christmas countdowns (Advent calendars). We did use a simple chocolate countdown my mom got for us.
We did not put up any outdoor Christmas decorations/lights, even though I would love for us to proclaim Christ to our neighbors.
We did not decorate a real Christmas tree – just a tiny two-foot one my daughter decorated.
We did not put up much Christmas decor inside our home. We stuck stockings on the wall with 3M hooks (we’re talking high class here!) and hung a couple ornaments/wooden wreaths on the wall. We have an Advent wreath on our kitchen table.
There are several doctors and helpers in our lives (for example, the library storytime leaders and some babysitters we use at MOPS) that I would have loved to give gifts to. It just never happened.
We did not do any service projects (beyond Operation Christmas Child, which was completed in November). In fact, we were even initially signed up to provide several dozen homemade cookies to a veterans’ dinner, and I was so relieved when someone else offered to provide pumpkin pies instead, so we were off the hook until another dinner in the spring.
We have not made hot cocoa or eaten candy canes.
We have hardly listened to any Christmas music.
I had hoped to read a personal daily Advent devotional, but I never got started.
We never did our family Christmas program, a time when we typically sing carols and act out the Christmas story.
We never had a “Happy Birthday, Jesus” party (beyond singing the “Happy Birthday” song on Christmas Day.)
Tomorrow I’ll be sharing what we did do for Christmas, because, despite all that we didn’t do, we ended up having a lovely holiday celebration. I’ll also share a few tips I’ve picked up along the way.
“But I Like To Go ‘All Out’ for Christmas!”
If you are someone who did do a lot of these things, good for you! Truly – I am excited that you were able to have a joyous holiday season, and please don’t let this post make you feel otherwise!
I have friends and family members with beautifully decorated trees, delightful Christmas countdowns, and all kinds of fun enjoying the season and delighting in our Savior and King. I’ve been able to enjoy viewing these beautiful trees and eating delicious cookies at their homes, and I’m so grateful!
I’m not overly sentimental about Christmas, so things like a beautifully decorated tree, baking traditional cookies, or observing many traditions are not important to me (or my husband. Nor were they practical to us in this particular phase of life.
Just please know that I’m not intending to cast judgment on what you have done… rather, reassure you in case you haven’t done these things!
**Leave a comment below: What are some things you did not do this Christmas season? Are you sad? Relieved?
Would you like a simple, meaningful way to offer thanks to God?
Would you like your Thanksgiving-dinner discussion of “what are you thankful for?” to be answered with more than just a generic “food, faith, and family?”
Would you like to include children and adults of all ages in thanking and praising God?
I love eating turkey and sweet potatoes as much as anyone, but sometimes it feels like the purpose of Thanksgiving – thanking the Lord for His blessings – falls to the wayside in the midst of eating delicious food, watching or playing sports, and perhaps getting a head-start on Christmas shopping.
I don’t think we have to choose one or another… we can have a fun day eating too much and then taking a nap before pumpkin pie, while stilltaking time to meaningfully thank God for His work and blessings. And, we can lead our children to do the same!
It’s a free download containing an outline for a simple Thanksgiving celebration. There are so many resources already for how to roast a great turkey or setting a beautiful Thanksgiving table… so this outline does notinclude those kinds of resources.
Instead, you’ll find:
Guidelines for a simple time of thankfulness.
48 discussion prompts, including questions appropriate for non-Christians and for children.
Options for a more elaborate celebration, if desired.
You will need to enter your email address to receive the download. Don’t worry – you won’t be signed up for a newsletter or put on any spam lists. I will remind you one time before Thanksgiving to remind you to use this guide, plus once or twice in December with info about a meaningful Christmas guide. That’s it!
I hope you enjoy a meaningful Thanksgiving celebration with your loved ones!
Welcome to the 31 Days of Global Missions with Kids series! You can view all the posts in the series here. Please remember that the goal isn’t for you to do ALL these projects, but rather pick one or two. You can download a printable worksheet here to guide you through discerning which project is best for you and the young people in your life.
“A present? For me?”
These are some of my daughter’s favorite words, and I would imagine that’s true for the children in your life, too.
As I consider what presents I’d like to give my children for birthdays or holidays, and what gifts I’d like to purchase with them for our other friends and family, I’d love to try to give fair trade gifts as much as possible.
While I’m not sure that buying fair trade qualifies as actual “global mission work,” as I envision children participating in loving God’s whole world, buying and receiving fair trade gifts seems to fit in hand-in-hand. It’s hard to love His world when our purchases our causing people to work in terrible conditions.
Why Fair Trade?
My heart breaks when I realize that the cheap toy or inexpensive t-shirt I buy for my daughters might have a dark past.
Unfortunately, the reality is that many of the products we purchase, particularly those sold at a low price (my favorite!), are produced in horrible working conditions where workers, sometimes children, are treated poorly and paid extremely low wages for very long hours.
So while the product may have a low financial cost for me as the consumer, the workers who produced the item paid a high cost by suffering through its production.
If you’re not familiar with the concept of fair trade, you can visit some of these helpful posts to learn more:
Companies that produce fair-trade products have committed to avoiding these horrible working conditions by providing fair wages, offering an acceptable working environment, and caring for their employees.
Many of the companies I’ll share today have gone a step further to provide not just acceptable but wonderful working environments, intentionally partnering with their workers.
A Caution: How to Avoid Burnout
I’m excited to share some fair trade gift ideas with you, along with some ways to talk about fair-trade with your children. But, here’s my caution: don’t go crazy trying to buy fair-trade everything all at once… especially if you are new to “fair-trade.”
A few years ago, I heard about fair-trade products for the first time. I learned the reasons why they’re necessary, and I was crushed to realize the horrible working conditions some people experience.
Then I got burnt out. After our daughter was born, I quit working outside the home, so our budget decreased. It was trickier to spend money on slightly more expensive fair trade items.
But even more than that, I just got tired of it. I like going to Target and picking up random items off the shelf without worrying about whether it’s fair trade or not. I like the taste of the non-fair-trade coffee available at the coffee shop around the corner.
So I quit hunting for fair-trade items, and returned to my old spending habits.
Rather than going “all out” with passion for shopping fair trade, I encourage you to find a middle ground and gradually ease your way into fair trade shopping.
Eventually, I began shopping fair trade again, this time, a little bit at a time. We have some local coffee shops we like to frequent that support fair trade coffee. This year, our Christmas gifts will be about half fair-trade items. I’ve found some favorite beauty products that are fair-trade, and try to select these ones when I need to make a new purchase.
Plus, I’ve also tried to incorporate some other ideas for avoiding “sweatshop” items, but without having to shop for truly fair-trade stuff… you can see these ideas below. This has made it easier to shop ethically and in a way that supports a love for all nations… without burning out.
Fair Trade Christmas Gift Ideas
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As Christmas approaches, I wanted to provide a resource for some fair-trade gift ideas.
Some of these are gifts to give to your children, and some are gifts you and your children could select for your loved ones (like grandparents or other adults).
The Mercy House Shopoffers lovely jewelry and household items that support women’s maternity homes in Kenya. They also have a program called Fair Trade Fridaywhich is “a monthly membership club that delivers high quality fair traded items to your door. The items in the box are fairly traded and provide employment to women all over the world. Plus, they are really cute! … “100% of the proceeds from each product go toward the empowerment of impoverished women as an avenue to introduce them to the Gospel.” (from Fair Trade Friday web site). They have a new box for kids, and young women might especially enjoy the earring of the month club.
Ten Thousand Villages has a wide assortment of fair trade items from all over the world. I’ve purchased Christmas gifts from them in the past and have been pleased by their unique, well-priced items. They also have some physical storefronts.
If you’ve found some of the other Fair Trade companies listed here to be too expensive, Ten Thousand Villages is a good option, as some of their products are just a few dollars each, like Christmas ornaments, small toys.
I also like that Ten Thousand Villages carries a large variety of different items… so if you’re trying to do all your Christmas shopping in one place, this is your best bet to find something for everyone on your list.
Toys and Clothes from Fair Indigo. I purchased clothes from them a few years ago, and they were very good quality and reasonably priced. I don’t recommend drying in the dryer – my clothes did shrink.
Cute handbags, doll clothes, girls’ aprons, home decor, and apparel from Timbali crafts
I was impressed by the good prices and unique items available from Timbali!
chocolate and sweets from Equal Exchange or the Christmas treatsfrom Sjaaks Chocolate. The organic dark chocolate caramel crunch with sea salt from Equal Exchange sounds delicious!!
handmade journals from Gadanke. I love the Christmas card holder journal! Gadanke’s journals are all customizable, as you can see in the photo above, so you can add or remove pages as desired.
She has such creative ideas, like a mother-daughter journal, lots of baby book ideas, and guides for recording family recipes. (These aren’t specifically “fair trade,” but are handmade in Montana by a lovely lady.)
Wild Dill offers a variety of fair trade children’s products, especially cute dolls. I just stumbled upon their site this week, and they seem like cute options for kids! The little donuts pictured above are baby rattles! So cute.
Still looking for more? Here are a few compilations of other fair-trade companies:
Want to avoid supporting harmful working conditions, but can’t find a reasonable fair trade option? Here are some other Ideas:
Shop second-hand. When you purchase items at a thrift store, garage sale, or on Craigslist, you are not perpetuation any poor labor conditions – this item was created long ago and your purchase isn’t stimulating any new production of items. You can even buy online through a second-hand shop like ThredUp or throughebay orEtsy.
Make something. Consider creating a craft or baking a food item as a gift. (Though, of course, you’ll still want to consider your materials. You could use repurposed goods, or purchase organic/fair trade ingredients, as possible.)
Buy organic. If you can’t find a food item with a fair-trade label, try to buy organic, if possible. Fair trade and organic certification are two different things, but they are usually mutually beneficial – fair trade practices help the environment, and organic conditions usually help the workers (since they’re not breathing in pesticides and work conditions are more strictly regulated).
Give an experience. Tickets to a baseball game, a theater production, or a children’s museum would be fun, clutter-free, and “fair trade.”
Shop locally. Often, independent/local shops will have first-hand control of their own products. For example, we frequent several coffee shops where they know the growers of their coffee beans and roast their own beans. Generally speaking, working conditions in the U.S. are better than overseas (though of course, there are exceptions, and sometimes materials are coming from overseas.)
Give an intangible gift by donating in honor of the recipient. Organizations like Compassion and Samaritan’s Purse offer the chance to select an item to donate to someone in need, on behalf of your loved one. They will usually provide a decorative card to wrap up explaining the impact of the donations. In the past we’ve given pigs, malaria nets, and beekeeping kits as a gift. Ann Voskamp has a lovely post herewith links to non-profit organizations that offer Christmas gift catalogs.
How to Talk about Fair-Trade with Your Children
Show photos of people who produce fair trade items. You can check out @Fair_Trade_Fridayon instagram or visit the “Meet the Ladies” page on the Krochet Kids web site. Talk about these people: what is her name? where does she live? what does she do? what is her life like?
Get two examples of the same product – one that is fair trade, and one that isn’t. A chocolate bar is a pretty inexpensive (and fun!) example. Show them to your kids, and talk about how they may taste the same (go ahead, offer a sample of each!), but they were produced very differently.
Personally, I don’t recommend showing photos or videos of sweatshops and poor working conditions until your children are 10 or older. Instead, I would focus on talking about good practices from companies that are doing the right thing, like some of the ones listed above.
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Pack a Shoebox for Operation Christmas Child
One of the easiest, simplest, most hands-on ways you can be involved in Global Missions with Kids is putting together Operation Christmas Child boxes… and now is the perfect time to do it, since shoebox collection week happens in mid-November!!
Operation Christmas Child, a project of Samaritan’s Purse, demonstrates God’s love in a tangible way to needy children around the world, and together with the local church worldwide, shares the Good News of Jesus Christ. They collect and send simple shoebox gifts filled with toys, school supplies, and hygiene items to children affected by war, poverty, disaster, famine, and disease. Since 1993, Operation Christmas Child has delivered gift-filled shoeboxes to over 124 million children in more than 150 countries and territories.
One thing I love about Operation Christmas Child is that many children who receive boxes participate in a 12 week discipleship course through a local church called The Greatest Journey. So, they’re not just receiving a lovely gift in a box but are also receiving the gift of a closer walk with Jesus!
Why pack a shoe box?
I have been involved in Operation Christmas Child for many years, packing my first box when I was a high school student. Since then, I have packed dozens of shoeboxes, hosted a collection at our church, and volunteered at the OCC processing center. Currently, my family works for an organization that helps fly the boxes to their destinations around the world, so we have met coworkers who have been involved in the distribution of boxes firsthand.
In all my interactions with Operation Christmas Child, they have been top-notch, doing valuable ministry and coordinating the distribution of shoeboxes in a way that benefits and encourages everyone involved.
I have volunteered twice at a OCC box processing center and I want to make sure you know that: the items you pack in your box will stay in your box(as long as they meet the rules.)
Before I volunteered, I wasn’t sure about this. As I painstakingly selected the perfect items to place in my shoebox, I wondered if at the processing center, they just got dumped into a pile or if boxes with more items were shared with boxes with less items. This is not the case!
The packing center emphasizes maintaining “the integrity of the box.”
Your box is opened and inspected for any items not permitted (like chocolate, army figurines, etc.) Those items are removed, along with any money placed in the box as a donation to Samaritan’s Purse. Then the box is sealed up securely with tape, placed on a wooden pallet, and shipped overseas.
So, if you selected a Barbie doll with a matching tee shirt for the girl who opens it… she’ll receive that gift. As you pray and pack, your box is being prepared for a child somewhere around the world who will open it soon!
How to Pack an Operation Christmas Child Box
1. Choose a gender and age range for your box(es). This year, we chose to do four boxes, each corresponding to the age/gender of a member of our family. So, my husband put together a box for a 10-14 year old boy, I did one for a 10-14 year old girl, and then our two young daughters did two boxes for 2-4 year old girls.
2. Get a box. A cardboard shoebox works! Your local Chick Fil A or Family Christian Stores may have some special red and green OCC boxes. My personal favorite is the plastic shoeboxes made by Sterilite that are available for about $1 at Target or Wal Mart. This way the child can use the plastic box for awhile.
3. Choose one big toy.
Something new this year is that Operation Christmas Child is emphasizing packing a bigger, fun gift in each box: a beautiful doll, plush stuffed animal, deflated soccer ball + pump, etc.
I am speculating that perhaps too many of us were being practical “fuddy-duddies” in our gift-giving, including lots of little helpful things without including a fun toy… the “Grandma gives us underwear every year for Christmas” syndrome.
4. Add in smaller toys, school supplies, and hygiene items.
Occasionally you will hear back from the person who receives your box, if you include your address.
Typically, we haven’t heard anything, but one year we did, and we’ve actually formed a nice friendship with a young man in the Philippines, and have been able to help him with his education and correspond over the years.
6. Donate $7 for box to cover shipping.
Operation Christmas Child asks that you donate $7 to help cover the costs of getting your box into the hands of its recipient. If you make this donation online, you can “follow your box” by printing out a label with a special scanner code on it and sticking it to your box.
In a couple months, you’ll get an email letting you know where your box was sent! Pretty cool! Last year, we learned that ours went to Mexico, a place near and dear to our hearts.
Packing an Operation Christmas Child Box on a Budget
Packing shoe boxes can be expensive. There have been years when I had the money to easily pack a dozen boxes, filling them with lovely things.
This year, we didn’t set aside that kind of money in our budget, so I aimed to pack four boxes for about $50 (not including the $7 per box donation or a few items I purchased earlier this summer).
You can see the contents of our four boxes in the photo above… I think I did pretty well for $12.50 a box!
Here are some tips for being able to afford to donate:
Look around your home for any new items you can include in a box. Do you have a stash of spare toothbrushes or a box of markers leftover from school supply shopping? These would all be excellent items to include… just make sure they are new. The photo above shows a bunch of stuff I found just by looking around our house… extra toiletry items, stickers and postcards, even a 3T shirt with tags still attached that my daughter never wore!
Check consignment shops or thrift shops for new items. Please do not include used items! But, if you find a brand-new item, tags still attached, at one of these shops? Go for it!
Ask for donations. Would your dentist be willing to donate some toothbrushes? Would a friend from church like to offer some art supplies? Perhaps a friend doesn’t have time to shop for items, but would be happy to provide $10 for the cause. At the very least, shoe stores are usually happy to give a spare shoebox or two so you don’t have to purchase a plastic box.
If you want to do multiple boxes, consider dividing up packages in half. For example, tubes of toothpaste may be cheaper if bought in a pack of two, or a large box of crayons can be divided into two smaller ones.
Consider making items for your OCC box. Operation Christmas Child has a well-maintained Pinterest account with lots of ideas for crafts to include in your box.
As time permits, purchase items ahead of time. I bought school supplies in August when they were on sale and set them aside for our shoeboxes. Not only were the items cheaper, but I was able to split up the cost over a few months. (I did not include these school supplies in the $50 total, since I had purchased them two months ago).
Devote a chunk of money to one “big” gift. As I mentioned above, this year OCC is encouraging packers to include a bigger gift like a stuffed animal, soccer ball and pump, or a beautiful doll. I chose to spend $7ish each on a stuffed animal for each of our boxes, then supplementing with more economical items for everything else. Even if you purchase all your other items at the dollar store, you may want to purchase a nicer “big” gift for each box.
How to Involve Your Children and Make It Meaningful
Talk about Operation Christmas Child before you begin shopping or packing boxes. Explain that you’ll be putting boxes together to send around the world. Pull out a globe or world map and point out some possible places. You could get out a little toy airplane or a wooden block (to symbolize a shoebox) and “fly” it from your home to another continent.
Take your child shopping with you. As you select items, talk about how you’re putting them in a shoebox to send to other kids.
Invite your child to purchase an item for the shoeboxes with his own money. My daughter is still at the innocent age where she was thrilled to take some of her allowance money to buy a puzzle at Target’s Dollar Spot. I expect in a few years she might not be quite so eager, once she understands money better! 🙂 In any case, offer your child the chance to purchase something. Alternatively, you could give your child a designated sum of money (perhaps $5 or $10?) and have them select and purchase an item for the box using that money.
Print out this coloring page and have your child color it to include in a box. It’s so cute and has a place to share info about your child, even drawing a picture of where you live and what your home looks like.
Include your child in packing the items into the box and dropping off at a drop-off site. Collection week is November 16 – 23, 2015.
Find out where your box goes. Operation Christmas Child asks that you donate $7 to help cover the costs of getting your box into the hands of its recipient. If you make this donation online, you can “follow your box” by printing out a label with a special scanner code on it and sticking it to your box. In a couple months, you’ll get an email letting you know where your box was sent! Pretty cool! Last year, we learned that ours went to Mexico, a place near and dear to our hearts.
Consider hosting (or attending) an Operation Christmas Child packing party. This is a fun, memorable way to pack boxes. Each person brings different items to pack (say, toothbrushes) and then together, you set up an assembly line and fill boxes. It’s also a chance to get out Christmas decor, movies, and treats and have a fun time together. Here are all sorts of resources from the OCC web site, and also some ideas from Oh Amanda for a packing party.
Take your older children/teenagers to volunteer at an OCC processing center. Volunteer slots fill up fast, so I’m sure they’re already full this year, but mark it on your calendar for the future! I’ve gone to the Southern California center a few times, and it’s always a memorable experience and a fun way to serve.
**Have you ever packed an Operation Christmas Child box? What tips do you have? Leave a comment below.
One of the best things we get to do as parents and adult mentors is bless our children. Sometimes this happens informally, through simple words of affirmation, but sometimes we can do it more formally, through a written blessing.
Blessings are a Biblical concept – Aaron and his sons receive instruction to bless the people of Israel in Numbers 6, and we see several parents blessing their children, like Jacob’s blessing his sons in Genesis 49.
In our family, we’ve chosen to bless our children as babies through a written blessing. You can read the blessings here:
We have written a blessing for each of our children: a page of prayers and intentions for our little one.
Certainly, it doesn’t need to be written down – a spoken blessing is wonderful too. The benefit of writing is that you can prepare your words ahead of time, and it’s recorded for the future.
In our blessings, we’ve recorded some hopes for our children, including specific ways we’ll pray for each of them and some encouragement for them as they grow up.
It can be any length. Ours have both been about a page, typed, but your blessing can be just a few sentences, or much longer.
When to Give a Blessing to Your Child
You can share a blessing for your child anytime.
We are members of an LCMS Lutheran church, which practices infant baptism. So, we’ve shared the blessing on the morning when each of our daughters have been baptized (both were about seven weeks old on their individual baptism days.)
For babies, you could also share this in conjunction with a baby dedication, when they are born, on a milestone “birthday” like 3 or 6 months old, or just on any old day – it doesn’t have to be a super-spectacular event!
For older children and teenagers, some appropriate times might be:
entering a new phase of school (like beginning of junior high or high school)
receiving driver’s license
moving out of the house
Questions to Inspire Your Blessing
If you’re interested in writing a blessing, I would encourage you to pray first for the Holy Spirit to give you the right words to say.
Then, here are some questions to help you think:
As you envision your child in the future (in 5, 10, 20, 50 years), what do you hope will be true of your child? What are three or four qualities you hope he or she will possess?
What does your child’s name mean? Why did you choose it?
Is there a particular Scripture that is meaningful to you or your child? Why? Could you turn this Scripture into a prayer of blessing for your child?
What are some qualities your child already exhibits, both positive and negative? What are some significant events from her life so far? How can you pray these will be a blessing in her life?
What are some prayers you’ve already had for your child? Is there a general theme you’ve prayed over and over again for him?
What to Do with Your Blessing
Choose a time to share with your child. This can be private, just with your family, or public. For our daughters, we shared one blessing within the actual baptism church service, and another at her baptism party afterward.
We printed our blessings out and put them on the wall of our daughter’s room. For a long time, we were reading a small section of our preschooler’s blessing to her every night before bed, and she loved it. We have fallen out of that habit though… maybe we should begin again!
Certainly, it would be nice to share regularly, perhaps on an annual basis, like a Baptism birthday or normal birthday. A short blessing (more like the Numbers 6 Benediction, which is just a few lines) could be shared very regularly, even daily!
**Have you ever written or spoken a blessing for your child? Leave a comment below.
We celebrated Elle’s birthday yesterday, and had a lovely, simple celebration as she turned three. She has been looking forward to this day for months, often waking up and asking “Is today my birthday?” We opted to keep things simple, and she seemed to have a pleasant, enjoyable day.
Sometimes birthdays can get out of control with presents, party plans, and festivities. While I’d like to blame that on Pinterest, it seems this was an issue long before, based on my read-through of The Berenstain Bears: Too Much Birthday, copyright date 1986! I can get consumed in all the details of a beautiful table display, lots of perfectly wrapped gifts, and a slew of fun activities.
Thankfully, I was able to rein it in and focused on just a few simple, meaningful activities, and we ended up having such a fun, stress-free (though still tiring!) day.
Birthdays are a chance to speak worth into our children, and remind them that they are loved and that their existence matters. Birthdays can be a chance to uphold the truth that our children are “fearfully and wonderfully made.”
In preparation for Elle’s birthday, I spent a lot of time pondering how to make it a joyful, affirming celebration, without stressing me out or spoiling her. We opted for a simple day – her cousin came over in the morning for a tea party, and then after naptime we went out for ice cream as a family and came home to watch a movie before bedtime. This enabled us to have the time and money to implement some of these special birthday ideas.
I want to be sure you don’t read through this list and think, “Okay, here’s another seven things to add to my to-do list.” Please don’t try to tackle all these things. Choose one (or none!) that work for your context. If you like working with photos and have a lot of them, choose an option that uses photos. On the other hand, if the idea of sorting through photos seems stressful to you… please don’t choose that option! The last thing I want is for you to feel stressed out about trying to make a birthday meaningful.
You may decide to cut back on something you’re already doing to allow the energy and budget for one of these ideas. For example, we didn’t buy our daughter any birthday presents, since we had a few keepsakes we wanted to pass on to her, and we knew other family members would give her presents. Therefore, I had some extra time I would have otherwise spent shopping and wrapping gifts, so I could do some of these other projects.
You are not a crummy parent or adult mentor if you don’t do all (or any) of these things! With that said, here are some of the ideas I came up with (we did some, but not all of these, yesterday) –
1. Create a photo slideshow with photos of the past year.
Elle loved watching her video, and it was something special to do on her birthday. I used Windows Movie Maker to very simply create hers, but you could also use PowerPoint or even just put all the photos in a folder on your computer and then select Slideshow on the “Manage” tab. (Turning it into a video uses up more space, but makes it more permanent so you can easily watch it over and over).
I divide our digital photos into folders by month, so I just copied 10-20 photos from each month since she turned two. I put it into a new folder, dragged it into Windows Movie Maker, and added some music (purchased on iTunes) that was special to her this year (“Let It Go,” from Frozen, of course! and “Bless the Lord O My Soul” by Matt Redman).
I selected about 200 photos, which I thought was going to be too long, but ended up being just right. Each photo showed for about 2.5 seconds, and it lasted about nine minutes total.
This project took me about 3-4 hours total, spread out over a few different nights of choosing photos… I have used Movie Maker in the past, but am not super computer savvy.
I started this tradition last year, after reading the idea on Jen Lund’s blog, and it’s a tradition we’ll likely continue.
2. Make a photo book with photos of the child’s past year (or longer).
The concept is basically the same… select photos from the child’s past year of life and drop them into an online photo book software (or print and slide into photo albums… but I like digital photo books so much better!)
I’ve seen this idea online but haven’t done it yet. You could create it ahead of time, and give it to your child as a birthday gift. I ran out of time to order it before Elle’s birthday, so I decided to wait until afterwards so I can include photos from all the way up to the day before her birthday.
I’ve never done this before, so I plan to make one book with photos from age 0, 1, and 2, and then hope to make it a yearly tradition after that, with just a single age in each book.
For simplicity, I’ll probably just do mostly photos without captions, but I love the idea of inserting some special Bible verses or quotes, and writing a letter at the beginning of the book, recapping the past year and highlighting a few lessons/reminders I’d like to share with Elle.
If you have easy access to them, you could even pull out photos from when you were this age, and compare to life today.
4. Give keepsakes from your own life as a gift to your child. This year, almost all of our gifts for Elle were keepsakes from my own childhood: a small dollhouse, a few books in a series I enjoyed as a child, and a little drinking mug with the number 3 all over it. Not only did it save us money and space (since we already had these items stored in the closet, we’re not bringing anything new), but if gives something special and meaningful to our daughter.
Of course, you may not have memorabilia from your childhood, but you could still consider something that was special to you when you were young and purchase the same item for your child. (Check Ebay if it’s a hard to locate item).
Other keepsake/sentimental gifts could be:
– write a letter to your child, giving blessings, special Bible verses, or memories from the past year
– find a photo of yourself at this age and put in a frame side-by-side with a photo of your child at the same age.
– purchase an inexpensive journal, and write a note to your child. Give it to them, and ask them to write back to you sometime. (You’ll probably want to start with some easy, surface-level questions, to get your child comfortable with this method). You can pass the journal back and forth between the two of you. A plain notebook works, or if you are a mom/daughter pair, these two journals provide prompts to help inspire you: Just Between Us and My Mom and Me.
5. Say a prayer or blessing over your child on his birthday.
Before you light the candles and sing “Happy Birthday,” take a moment to share a prayer or special blessing for your child.
Yesterday, we didn’t get to a special prayer in the chaos of getting food and cupcakes on the table, but we did pray for Elle’s upcoming year with her before she went to bed.
If you are at a loss for what to say, this blessing from Numbers 6:23-27 was originally for the people of Israel, and is now shared every Sunday in many Christian churches today… it might be perfect for your child’s birthday blessing. You could say something like, “[Child’s Name], in the year ahead, may the Lord bless you and keep you. The Lord make His face shine upon you and be gracious to you. The Lord lift His countenance upon you and give you His peace.”
6. Give the gift of time – offer a “date” with you as one of your child’s birthday presents.
As you consider your child’s gifts, don’t feel like you have to purchase a bunch of items. One great (clutter-free!) gift is time spent with you. Consider what you’d like to do with your child… a visit to Starbucks or out for frozen yogurt? Go to the park and play catch? Go to the movies together? Bake cookies together at home?
Then turn that into something that can be “wrapped.” (I think this is more meaningful than a verbal promise to do something, and it also helps younger children who especially like to unwrap gifts.)
You could give a Starbucks or Yogurtland gift card, with a note that you’ll go their together. Or, a new baseball and a bag of Goldfish crackers to snack on during your park visit. Or, a bag of chocolate chips and the recipe for baking cookies together.
7. Set up a day for your child to spend with some “adult mentors.” A woman at our church shared this idea with me a few years ago, and I’ve loved it ever since. Her granddaughter, Jessica, was turning 13, and so the parents set up a special day for her. They selected four or five important women in her life – aunts, older friends, her grandmother – and asked them each to spend a couple hours with Jessica on that day… for example, one woman invited her over for breakfast, another took her out to lunch. They each spent time with her, showing their love, and I would imagine, offered some wisdom as she became a teenager. At the end of the day, they all gathered together for dinner.
Beyond just talking and eating, some other ideas would be for the mentors and child to spend time together by going for a run, doing an activity like bowling or laser tag, going to a paint-your-own pottery place, playing catch or going to the batting cages, or learning a skill like sewing or woodworking.
for adult mentors:Birthdays are a wonderful time to affirm the young people in your life in a culturally appropriate way – it is common to receive gifts, cards, and special celebrations from extended family and friends. Consider how you can use birthdays to speak Christ’s hope and grace into a young person you know. Check out the gift ideas above, or be sure to clear your calendar to attend the child’s birthday party (if invited). Talk to the parents about working together on a photo book or video (perhaps they can provide the photos and you can put it together?) Have fun celebrating a young person in your life!
**How do you celebrate birthdays for the young people in your life? Leave a comment below.